Tag Archives: Emotional Equality

Finding peace in relationships with family, friends, co-workers, and authoritarians (assigned by us).

Thomas Merton Day

Tribute to Merton © twyatt 2004Early in my rebirth, some twenty five years ago, I went with a friend to her Presbyterian church retreat at Cho-yeh. I was uncomfortable in being with all of the more traditional, coiffed-haired church-going women.

I felt less than; an adulteress-type brand on the inside of my forehead. But I stayed.  It was there that I was first introduced to Thomas Merton.

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Lost and Found

The church calendar reading last Sunday was the prodigal passage – it piqued my husband’s sentiments. I appreciated his refreshingly different viewpoint on this familiar tale of two siblings vying for a father’s attentions.  This morning my daily, routine reading references the same story of a wayward son.  And then, opening 

one of my most cherished books, The Atlantic Year Book, Being a Collection of Quotations from The Atlantic Monthly­, I turn to March 12th with interest to see if my Grandma had noted my father’s name on today’s date as this is my father’s birthday.  I’m delighted to find she had; his name is in the margin right beside the quote for the day from Arthur Clutton-Brock.  Again the prodigal son makes his appearance. Continue reading

Come Before Winter

I didn’t feel like writing this morning.  I have time so I will. 

Seconds before pen hit page… well no, that’s not right.  While writing the first sentence… no, that’s not right either.  In writing the date at the top of my page, November 3, 2012, I felt the remembrance: not long before Trudy dies, or rather, I sense in this time the echo of her passing.  A cavernous queasiness takes hold of my mind and my heart and my soul.

If I must remember an anniversary this morning I prefer to think of the spring tulips planted for Trudy by Grandpa Wyatt at the little house; beneath the small crabapple tree in the center of the drive, just east of the sidewalk that lead to the front door. Continue reading

A Discouraged Child

“Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” Colossians 3:21

On Sunday I read Colossians, and one of the verses struck me – boldly affirming of how well God knows us and our natures, the immediate and lasting value of loving relationships, as well as the gift of finding new words in God’s timeless messages to us.

I was reading the verses around this one, the ones made more familiar by weddings and sermons; then when reading about parent/child relationships I heard consequences that God felt grave enough to mention it here for the ages: a discouraged child.

I know exactly what that looks like – in me, in those I love, and in the life of friends who experienced childhood abandonments (passive and not-so-passive) and it is not right. Enough not right that God chose these particular words (in this translation anyway) to vehemently call it out as a “don’t do”!

He could have said: don’t provoke lest your child will not turn out right, abandon you, shame you, be filled with demons or be burned up like dry grass. But He didn’t. Simply and concisely God reminds us of the generational consequences of our actions, and the importance of a parent’s role in protecting a child’s sense of encouragement in themselves, their purposes and their faith.

This Book is filled with God’s Word that strikes an ear with newness and love when I look for relatable issues and problems and loving support and suggestions. Today the main take away for me is: God does not want us to be, or become, discouraged – at least not as a result of a parent’s selfish/self-willed provoking ways.

That’s a gem worth looking for on a Sunday morning.